Former Beauty Queen, Adaeze Yobo who doubles as the wife of popular footballer, Joseph Yobo has revealed how the footballer’s retirement affected their marriage.
In a recent chat with Mercy Johnson Okojie in her cook show, the mum of three disclosed that she was glad when he eventually retired but she was bothered about him.
“I was happy he retired, we travelled around, moved around, and stayed around 5 different cities but I had the fear of how he will cope cos he breathes football and that is how he makes money, I spoke to him and talked him through it and he came out okay cos I told him it’s okay for him to tell me when he feels sad.”
Shedding light on their marriage which recently turned 12 years, Adaeze Yobo spilled that it has been beautiful.
“We met when I was 19 and he was blunt, he knew what he wanted from day one. I want to be your friend, he didn’t beat around the bush…a month later he gave me a promise ring and said he wanted to marry me. I told my mum and she is like what about your university education but he promised he will let me go to school and support me through it even in marriage and he did. I went to school in LA”
Adaeze Yobo in the interview further revealed how motherhood had made her now enjoy cooking.
Why I cry everyday after delivery – Adaeze Yobo makes revelations
Recalled that Former Beauty Queen, Adaeze Yobo once addressed her postpartum challenges and how she went into depression.
The mother of three shared her not-so-pleasant experience after delivery in order to encourage other women who might find themselves depressed after delivery.
“The worst kind of Postpartum depression” after my first child, it lasted for more than a year. I thought I’ll never fully recover, be happy or get myself back again, I was in a very dark place at a point in my life that was supposed to be the happiest.
Some days I’ll go into the restroom and cry out, once I’m done ill feel relieved, wipe my face and continue what I was doing as nothing happened. There was no particular reason for the cry, it just comes like a rushing wave, fills up my chest and I’ll run to let it out.
I didn’t know there was a name to what I was going through because back then in Nigeria, the idea of PPD/PND was almost Non-existent. I never told anyone for the fear of being judged or people close to me making assumptions about my sanity. Probably why my PPD lasted that long. I can’t imagine how i would have survived that now.
Going through all that transformation & mental breakdown in the middle of a Global pandemic? If you’re a partner/spouse to a new mom or you’re a dad to be, pls educate yourself about; Baby bluesPostpartum depression & Postpartum psychosis.